FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is sensual massage?
This could be seen as a trick question, as by definition all massage can be considered sensual to one degree or another.
However, as practiced by Sensual Bodyworks, a sensual massage or full body sensual massage, sometimes referred to as FBSM, is an intimate experience that combines Swedish bodywork techniques together with sensual and erotic touch within your boundaries, for intentional arousal of the body, usually to orgasm.
Massages are given within your comfort zone with the aim of you embracing intimacy and arousal as a normal human behaviour.
Is sensual massage a proper massage?
Sensual massage can mean different things to different people of course. However at Sensual Bodyworks, yes most definitely, it is a proper full body massage.
The Relax treatment does not include any erotic content, while the Explore and Adventure treatments have increasing levels of sensual touch and erotic content for arousal.
All massages can be tailored to your specific requirements in terms of both the dynamic of the massage and the sensual and erotic content using the request form that you will be sent after booking.
Why do women book a sensual massage?
Some people are surprised that women book a sensual massage, after all, most women can find sex quite easily by walking into a bar or these days using a dating App. However, a sensual massage is far more than just an erotic experience, it is first and foremost a proper full body massage. Treatments provide relaxation and a feeling of well being, as well as providing a release. Perhaps more importantly, many options available don't guarantee a good experience. They can come with complications, and typically mean considering someone else’s needs and agenda as well as your own.
By contrast, a sensual massage with a professional, in a safe and controlled environment, is all about you. There is no need to consider anyones needs or satisfaction other than your own.
Some of the reasons clients book a sensual massage are:
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I am stressed and/or tense and want an unconditional orgasmic release.
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Difficulty reaching orgasm, anorgasmia / situational anorgasmia.
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Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
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Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
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Recently my libido has increased considerably.
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Guilt/Morality/Shame around sex.
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Letting go of control and trusting others with it.
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Recovering from sexual aggression/abuse.
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Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and partner.
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I am on holiday/business so free to explore my erotic needs.
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Postmenopausal and still very sexual and/or my partner is not.
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Convenience and self-care for busy professionals who don’t want a relationship.
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Separated/Divorced/Widowed, I would still like a sexual release but not ready for relationship.
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I have cultural or religious restrictions and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
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Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
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Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
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I want to feel desired and dominated (sensual domination).
What type of clients visit?
I see female clients of all ages, body types, ethnicities, religeons and walks of life, there is no one common demographic. Most clients are aged between 25 and 65 years of age, but I welcome younger and older clients too. If you are lucky enough to appear under the age of 25 I will require ID to prove you are at least 18.
Body type is not important as long as you are reasonably fit and healthy with no serious medical issues. I'm happy to see clients with disabilities and certain chronic conditions including, but not limited to, multiple sclerosis (MS), chronic fatigue syndrome/myalgic encephalomyelitis (CFS/ME) and fibromyalgia (FMS) subject to a consultation first.
Tell me more about yourself?
I'm a male masseur in my mid thirties. I came to massage later in life and have found a real passion for it. I have a happy and stable family life with a long-term partner and children that are growing up fast.
I'm 188cm tall with athletic build and like to keep fit. I'm happy to share more information and pictures if required once we've had a conversation.
What are your opening times?
I am typically available daily 7 days a week between 8AM and 6PM by appointment only. Other times may be available by special arrangement.
Will I see anyone else when visiting?
No one else will be on the premises and I always allow at least 30 minutes between appointments so you won't bump into any other clients.
What does the treatment look like?
The treatment room is dark, warm and moody with pitch blue walls, candles and dim lights. There is an adjoining shower room for your private use when visiting.
I usually play spa music during the massage, however if you would prefer something different I have alternative options or you can request your own. If you would prefer silence that is fine too, just let me know your preferences.
What type of massage oil do you use?
I use unscented grape seed, almond or fractionated coconut oil. If you have any preferences or allergies be sure let me know, I'd be happy to obtain different oils if you need or prefer.
What happens during an appointment?
Appointments are 30 minutes longer than the treatment time to ensure a relaxed and unhurried experience. I also reserve a minimum 30 minutes between appointments to give time to prepare the room and ensure you won't see other clients arriving or leaving.
You will have completed a Request & Authorise form before arriving where you will have prioritised the dynamic of the massage and type of touch and arousal you would like.
On arrival you will be offered refreshments, while we have a conversation about your treatment, what your motivation is and what you want to get out of it. This is a chance for you to ask any questions you may still have and allow you to relax and feel comfortable before the treatment begins.
When you are ready, I will show you to the massage room. I will leave you to change and have a shower to freshen up if you wish and get comfortable on the treatment table.
When the massage is complete, I will leave the room. When you are ready, you may have shower if you wish before dressing. If you have time, I would like to have another conversation to see how you feel and if the massage delivered all that you had hoped.
What if I feel uncomfortable during the massage?
The massage is all about you and your preferences and boundaries. The starting point is the request form that you will have completed but you may be unsure about some things and you can of course change your mind at any time.
I play close attention to your responses and aim to adjust accordingly if I feel it's needed but none the less if at any point you feel uncomfortable with anything at all please do let me know right away. As a nation we can sometimes be reluctant to speak out if not happy but with an intimate treatment such as sensual massage it’s important that you do.
Please rest assured there will be no drama and you will never offend in anyway. If you want to alter the massage or stop altogether that is absolutely fine. Your enjoyment, comfort and wellbeing is the priority.
Sensual Surrender sessions can optionally explore domination and consensual non-consent which can be exciting to explore for some. When doing so traffic light safe words will be in place so you are always in ultimate control. If you are in any doubt that you will feel able to express your feelings for whatever reason then I would advise against booking.
This is a particularly important and I would be very happy to discuss with you if there is any uncertainty.
Will the masseur be naked?
It's your choice whether the masseur is naked or clothed. Some people are more comfortable if the masseur remains clothed, while others feel it enhances the experience if the masseur is also naked. You can specify your preference when competing the booing form.
Can I touch the masseur?
For some people reciprocal touch is important to their experience while for others it's only about receiving touch and focusing on their own body and sensations. Neither approach is right or wrong, and you may want to act differently at different times and/or visits. If you want to touch the masseur in anyway you can, and nothing you do is wrong. However it's important to know that there is no expectation or obligation to do so.
How do I book and pay?
You can book through the website which will show my availability or get in touch by email, text and/or phone. I don't take same day bookings.
Once a booking has been made, you'll be asked to pay a £30 deposit within 48 hours by bank transfer, PayPal if not already done so through the website. The balance can be paid on the day of the massage by cash, bank transfer, PayPal or Credit Card.
What if I feel unwell?
If you feel unwell and have flu or cold like symptoms then unfortuantly your treatment cannot go ahead. Additionally if you have had stomach upset or flu/cold like symptoms within the 48 hours prior to your appointment I respectfully ask that you get in touch and reschedule. Your deposit and/or payment will be carried forward for up to three months so you won't lose out financially in doing so.
What if I need to cancel my appointment?
Deposits are non-refundable, however should you need to cancel and reschedule a booking due to unforeseen circumstances don't worry. As long as you give at least 24 hours notice you won't need to pay another deposit when rebooking.
